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Being positive and confident doesn’t always come naturally to everyone. It’s like a muscle – the more you use it, the stronger it gets. 

And just like exercising, there are steps you can take and habits you can build to help strengthen your positivity and confidence muscles.

But one thing you should understand first is that no one is all confident and positive all the time. Some days you might feel on top of the world, and other days, not so much. That’s completely normal. 

But with a bit of practice and some simple techniques, you can shift your mindset to see the brighter side more often? And not only that, you can also stand tall, feeling sure of yourself and your place in the world.

Here are ten practical things you can do to be more confident and positive: 

1. Surround Yourself With The Right Influence

You know how they say you’re the average of the five people you spend the most time with? Well, there’s some truth to that. 

The people you surround yourself with have a massive impact on your mindset. 

Think about that friend who always sees the silver lining or the colleague who consistently lifts others up. Being around them makes a difference, right?

Now, take a moment and assess your circle. Are there people who constantly drain your energy or fill your head with negativity? 

You might not need to cut ties completely, but it could be beneficial to limit your time with them. Instead, seek out people who radiate positivity and confidence.

The “right influence” may not only be about people. Books, podcasts, and even the content you consume online play a role. Feed your mind with uplifting and constructive material. With time, this subtle shift can work wonders on your mindset.

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2. Count Your Blessings

Ever noticed how easy it is to focus on the one negative comment, even if you received a dozen positive ones? That’s just human nature. 

But what if you actively shifted your focus? Started paying more attention to the good stuff? That’s where counting your blessings comes in.

Start with a gratitude journal. Each day, jot down three things you’re thankful for. They don’t have to be monumental. 

Maybe you had a delicious breakfast, or someone smiled at you on the street. These seemingly small things can have a big impact on your overall perspective.

Counting your blessings isn’t a magic pill, but it trains your mind to seek out the good. You’ll begin to notice the small joys more and the moments that truly matter. 

By appreciating what you have, you’re also building a foundation for confidence, acknowledging the positive aspects of your life.

3. Get Good At Something

Everyone’s good at something, right? But what if you took one of those things and really honed that skill? 

There’s a unique kind of confidence that comes from mastering something, whether it’s a hobby, a professional skill, or even just a party trick.

Pick something you love, or even something you’re just curious about. Dive deep. Research, practice, and get better. 

Along the way, you’ll encounter challenges, but that’s part of the journey. Overcoming them only adds to your confidence.

As you progress, you’ll find a sense of accomplishment. Every milestone, no matter how small, is a step forward. And each step forward reinforces your belief in yourself. 

The joy isn’t just in the destination but in the journey and the learnings along the way.

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4. Become Friends With The Voice In Your Head

We all have that inner voice. Sometimes, it’s our biggest cheerleader, and other times, it can be our harshest critic. But that voice is a part of you, and you have more control over it than you might think.

Instead of trying to silence it or push it away, get to know it. Understand its concerns, its fears, and its motivations. Often, that voice just wants what’s best for you, even if it has a funny way of showing it.

Engage with that voice. If it’s being particularly negative, challenge it. Ask questions. Why do you feel that way? Is there evidence to support that belief? 

You might be surprised at how often that voice will falter when confronted with logic and reason.

Building a relationship with your inner voice isn’t about suppression. It’s about understanding and cooperation. 

Gradually, as you work together, you’ll find that voice becoming more positive, more supportive, and more in tune with the confident you that you’re striving to be.

5. Clean Your Room (Take Care of the Little Things)

Ever felt a rush of satisfaction after tidying up? There’s something empowering about cleaning your room. It’s not just about the physical act of cleaning, but what that represents: taking control. 

A clutter-free environment often leads to a clutter-free mind, creating space for positivity and confidence to bloom.

Starting with your immediate surroundings gives you an immediate boost. Each item put away, every corner dusted, serves as a mini accomplishment. 

These little victories build momentum, propelling you towards bigger tasks and challenges with a renewed sense of purpose.

Now, let’s think beyond the room. This mindset can be applied to all areas of life. Paying attention to details, finishing tasks, and staying organized can significantly improve your overall well-being. 

By consistently taking care of these little things, you’ll find that they add up, painting a broader picture of discipline, responsibility, and personal pride.

Whenever you’re feeling overwhelmed or lacking confidence, start small. Tidy up, organize a drawer, or even just make your bed. By cultivating order in your surroundings, you’ll often find that your inner world becomes more orderly too.

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6. Stop Doing The Things You Know You Shouldn’t Be Doing

Every time you resist the urge to fall into an old pattern, you’re flexing your willpower muscles.

The journey begins with awareness. Recognize these behaviors. Maybe it’s procrastination, eating junk food, or anything else that doesn’t serve your best self. Once you’re aware, you can take actionable steps to correct your course.

Breaking free from these patterns is like shedding weights that have been holding you back. 

Every time you say no to a negative habit, you’re saying yes to a better version of yourself. And with every small win, your confidence grows.

Resisting temptations and breaking habits isn’t an overnight process, but a continuous one. Celebrate the little victories, and don’t be too hard on yourself on the days you falter. The goal is progress, not perfection.

7. Look Good (How You Look Affects Your Mind)

You’ve probably heard the saying, “Dress for the job you want, not the job you have.” There’s truth in those words. How you present yourself externally can have a profound effect on how you feel internally.

Now, looking good isn’t about adhering to societal standards or impressing others. It’s about feeling your best, for yourself. 

Whether it’s wearing an outfit that makes you feel like a million bucks or getting a fresh haircut, these actions can boost your self-esteem significantly.

Feeling confident in your appearance often translates into confidence in other areas of life. It’s not vanity; it’s self-respect. By taking care of your appearance, you’re sending a message to the world and, most importantly, to yourself that you matter.

8. Take Steps to Understanding Human Nature

Sometimes the reason we suffer with lack of self-confidence is because we’re too caught up in our own heads. 

But if you make it a task to understand human nature, life and social interactions become less about you and more about understanding the world around you.

You see, every person you meet has a story, emotions, experiences, and motivations that drive their actions and reactions. 

Instead of making assumptions or getting lost in misinterpretations, seek to grasp the underlying causes of human behavior. 

This understanding not only enriches your personal interactions but also reduces unnecessary stress.

As you get better at comprehending others, you’ll inevitably gain a more profound understanding of your own motivations, desires, and insecurities, thereby building a sense of self-assuredness. 

9. Read Good Books

Books are treasure troves of wisdom. They provide insights, take you on journeys, and introduce you to perspectives you might never have encountered otherwise. 

Immersing yourself in a good book is not just escapism; it’s an exercise for the mind.

Good books challenge you. They make you think, reflect, and often inspire action. 

Whether it’s fiction that helps you understand the human psyche or non-fiction that equips you with knowledge, reading regularly can be a significant confidence booster.

Knowledge is empowering. The more you know, the more confident you feel in your interactions, decisions, and daily life. And books, with their vast array of subjects and genres, offer knowledge in abundance.

Make reading a habit. Set aside a few minutes or hours every day, find a cozy corner, and dive into a book. With every page you turn, you’re not just getting lost in a story but also building a more confident and informed self.

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10. Embrace Failures As Learning Opportunities

Nobody’s perfect. Everyone, and I mean everyone, makes mistakes. Those blunders are not a reflection of your worth, but merely part of the growth process. Consider them as little lessons life throws your way.

Now, instead of ruminating on what went wrong, pivot your focus. Ask yourself: What can I take away from this? What can I do differently next time? 

Approaching setbacks with a curious mindset shifts your perspective from blame to growth.

Just think about the stories you’ve heard of successful people. Most of them have faced their fair share of setbacks. Yet, their resilience and ability to see failures as stepping stones set them apart. 

By adopting a similar mindset, you too can navigate life’s ups and downs with a confident stride.

Conclusion 

Remember, like any journey, building confidence and maintaining a positive outlook takes time and practice. It’s okay to have moments of doubt or to feel down sometimes. 

What’s important is to keep trying, keep believing, and remember that you have the power to shape your feelings and actions. Each day brings a new opportunity to grow and shine. 

So, wear your confidence like a badge, see the good in every situation, and know that you are capable of amazing things. 

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