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Ladies, let’s talk about the ultimate betrayal: cheating. 

There’s nothing worse than finding out that the person you thought was your partner, your soulmate, your everything, has been unfaithful to you. 

It’s a gut-wrenching feeling that leaves you questioning everything you thought you knew about your relationship. And while there’s no one-size-fits-all solution to dealing with a cheating partner, there is one thing you can do: give them a piece of your mind. In this article, we’re going to help you do just that. 

We’ll provide you with 40 creative and painful messages to send to your cheating boyfriend. So grab a box of tissues, a pint of ice cream, and your phone, and get ready to let him know exactly how you feel.

Short But Painful Messages to a Cheating Boyfriend

1. The sarcastic message 

“Oh hey there, Mr. Casanova. Did you enjoy your little romp with someone else? It must have been so much fun sneaking around behind my back like a teenage boy. I hope it was worth it, because you just lost the best thing that ever happened to you. Have a nice life, cheater.”

“Well, well, well, look who decided to text me. Is it the man I used to call my boyfriend, or is it his evil twin who cheats on his girlfriend? Oh wait, they’re the same person! Silly me, I forgot. I hope your new girlfriend is enjoying the fruits of your infidelity, because she won’t have them for long. Cheaters never prosper, my friend.”

“Oh wow, I’m so glad you cheated on me! It’s not like we had a good thing going or anything. It’s not like we were happy together. No, you had to ruin everything by sleeping with someone else. Bravo. You’re a real catch, you know that?”

2. The angry message 

“You disgust me. How could you do this to me? To us? You had the nerve to lie to my face and pretend everything was okay, while you were busy screwing someone else. Well, congratulations, you played yourself. You’re officially single now. Don’t bother trying to come back, because I’m done with you.”

3. The sad message

“I can’t believe this is happening. I trusted you with all my heart, and you threw it away. Why? What did I do wrong? Wasn’t I enough for you? I thought we had something special, but I guess I was wrong. I don’t know how I’m going to move on from this, but I know I can’t stay with someone who can hurt me like this.”

4. The poetic message

“Like a rose with thorns, you pricked my heart and left it bleeding. Like a butterfly with broken wings, I fell from the sky you made me believe in. Like a song with a sad ending, you shattered my dreams and left me pretending. But now, like a phoenix rising from the ashes, I’ll find my strength and soar higher than ever before. Goodbye, cheater.”

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5. The blunt message

“You cheated on me. That’s it. There’s nothing else to say. I don’t need excuses, apologies, or second chances. You made your choice, and now you have to live with the consequences. You’re out of my life, and I’m moving on. End of story.”

6. The regretful message 

“I used to think you were the one, the person I could trust with my heart and soul. But now, looking back, I see all the signs I ignored, all the red flags I dismissed. I should have seen this coming, but I was blinded by my love for you. Well, not anymore. I’m done with you, and I’m done blaming myself for your mistakes.”

“I keep asking myself where I went wrong, and what I could have done differently to prevent this from happening. But you know what? It’s not my fault. You made a choice, and you chose to cheat on me. You chose to break my heart and destroy our relationship. And now, you have to live with the consequences of your actions.”

The regretful message (part 3): “I gave you my heart and my trust, and you threw it all away. I thought we had something special, but it turns out I was just another conquest for you. I wish I could go back in time and never meet you. I wish I could unlove you. But I can’t, so all I can do now is try to move on from the pain you caused me.”

7. The ironic message 

“Congratulations, you just won the prize for the worst boyfriend of the year! I hope you’re proud of yourself. You cheated on the one person who loved you more than anything, and now you’re alone with your lies and secrets. Maybe you should have thought twice before breaking the one rule that every relationship has: don’t cheat.”

“You know what’s funny? I used to think you were loyal, honest, and trustworthy. But now, thanks to your little escapade with someone else, I see you for what you really are: a liar, a cheat, and a coward. Congratulations on showing your true colors. I hope your new partner enjoys the taste of betrayal, because that’s all she’ll ever get from you.”

[Related: How to Make a Cheating Boyfriend Feel Bad]

8. The indifferent message

“Hey, remember when we used to be together? Yeah, me neither. It’s amazing how quickly you can forget someone who meant so much to you. But that’s what happens when you cheat on me. You become a stranger, a memory I don’t want to keep. Goodbye, and good luck finding someone who will put up with your crap.”

9. The empowering message

“You may have broken my heart, but you didn’t break me. I’m still standing, still breathing, still alive. And guess what? I don’t need you to be happy. I don’t need your lies, your promises, or your apologies. I’m better off without you, and I’m going to prove it every single day. So thank you, cheater, for showing me what I don’t want in my life.”

10. The questioning message

“Tell me, was she worth it? Was she worth losing me, your loyal and loving girlfriend? Was she worth breaking my heart and shattering our future together? I hope so, because now you’re stuck with her. I hope you’re happy with your decision, because I know I am. Without you, I’m free to find someone who actually deserves my love.”

11. The disappointed message

“I thought you were better than this. I thought you were the kind of person who respected relationships and didn’t play games. I guess I was wrong. You’re just like every other cheater out there, selfish and cowardly. I hope you learn from your mistakes and don’t hurt anyone else like you hurt me.”

12. A cutting message to a cheating boyfriend 

“You know what hurts the most? It’s not that you cheated on me. It’s that I trusted you completely, and you betrayed that trust. You took something precious and rare and stomped all over it. You don’t deserve forgiveness, sympathy, or even my attention. You’re dead to me now, and I’m moving on.”

[Also read: 10 Sneaky Signs Your Man Is Cheating On You]

13. The vengeful message 

“I have a surprise for you, cheater. You know all those sweet messages you sent me, all those love notes and promises of forever? I saved them all. And now I’m going to post them on social media, for everyone to see what a liar and cheat you are. Have fun explaining that to your family, friends, and new girlfriend.”

“You messed with the wrong woman, buddy. I’m not going to sit here and cry over you. No, I’m going to make you pay for what you did to me. I’m going to tell everyone I know what a cheater you are. I’m going to ruin your reputation, your friendships, and your chances of ever finding love again. And you know what? You deserve every bit of it.”

14. The disappointed message

“I had such high hopes for us. I thought we were different from all the other couples out there, that we had something special. But I guess I was wrong. You couldn’t even stay faithful for a single day. You had to ruin everything we had, just to satisfy your own selfish desires. I’m disappointed in you, and I’m disappointed in myself for ever believing in you.”

15. The hopeful message

“I don’t know why you cheated on me, and honestly, I don’t care. What I do know is that I deserve better than someone who can’t stay faithful. So, even though my heart is broken right now, I’m hopeful for the future. I’m hopeful that I’ll find someone who will love and respect me the way I deserve. And I’m hopeful that you’ll learn from your mistakes and become a better person, even if it’s not with me.”

16. The honest text to a cheating boyfriend

“I can’t pretend that everything is okay between us. I can’t just forgive and forget like nothing ever happened. You cheated on me, and that’s a betrayal that can’t be easily overcome. I need time to heal, to process my feelings, and to decide if I even want to be with you anymore. So don’t expect me to come running back to you anytime soon. The ball is in your court now, and it’s up to you to prove that you’re worthy of my love and trust again.”

17. The blunt message

“I’ll make this simple for you. You cheated on me, and that’s a dealbreaker. We’re done, and there’s nothing you can do to change that. Don’t bother trying to explain yourself or make excuses. I don’t want to hear it. You made your bed, now lie in it… alone.”

18. An angry message to a cheating boyfriend

“I hope you’re happy with what you did. I hope it was worth throwing away everything we had. Because now, all you have left is your guilt and your regret. You hurt me in a way that I can’t even describe, and I’ll never forgive you for that. You don’t deserve a second chance. You don’t deserve anything from me.”

19. The self-assured message

“You thought you could break me by cheating on me, but you were wrong. I’m stronger than you ever imagined. I’m not going to let your infidelity define me or control my life. I’m moving on, and I’m doing it without you. You can keep your lies and your secrets. I don’t need them anymore. I’m done with you.”

20. The closure message

“I don’t hate you, and I don’t wish you any ill will. But I can’t be with someone who doesn’t respect me enough to be faithful. I deserve better than that. So, this is goodbye. I’m closing the door on our relationship and moving on with my life. I hope someday you realize the gravity of your actions and learn from them. But until then, we’re done.”

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Long and Painful Messages to a Cheating Boyfriend 

1

Did you think I wouldn’t find out? Did you think you could just sneak around behind my back and get away with it? Well, newsflash, buddy, I’m not stupid. I know exactly what you’ve been up to, and it’s time to face the consequences.

You had the nerve to look me in the eye and tell me you loved me, while you were sleeping with someone else. How could you do that to me? I trusted you and you let me down. You broke my heart into a million pieces, and now I have to pick up the mess.

Do you have any idea of the heartache you’ve caused me? Do you have any idea what it feels like to be betrayed by someone you love? I hope you’re happy, because you’ve succeeded in making me feel like absolute crap. Congratulations.

2

I don’t even know where to start with you. You cheated on me, plain and simple. You took our relationship and tossed it aside like it was nothing. All those promises you made, all those sweet words you whispered in my ear, they were all lies. You never meant a single one of them.

I guess you don’t even understand how much damage you’ve done. You’ve destroyed the trust we had between us, and I don’t know if I’ll ever be able to trust anyone again. You’ve made me doubt myself, doubt my worth, and doubt my ability to be loved. How could you be so selfish?

And the worst part is that you didn’t care enough about me to be honest about your mistakes. I had to find out from someone else. Instead, you chose to hide behind your lies and deceive me.

Well, I hope it was worth it. I hope whatever you gained from cheating on me was worth the pain and heartache you caused. Because as far as I’m concerned, you’re not worth a second more of my time.

3

You broke my heart, and now I’m left with nothing but questions. Why did you cheat on me? Was it because you were bored, because you were looking for something new and exciting? Did you ever think about how your actions would affect me, the person who loved you more than anything?

I trusted you, I believed in you, and you let me down in the worst possible way. I thought you were the one, the person I was going to spend the rest of my life with. But now, I can’t even look at you without feeling sick to my stomach.

Do you have any idea what it feels like to be cheated on by the person you thought was your soulmate? I wouldn’t wish this on my worst enemy. And yet, you did it to me, without a second thought.

4

You didn’t just cheat on me, you threw away everything we had together. You destroyed our memories, our plans for the future, and our love. How could you be so heartless?

By the time you realize you’ve lost something special, it’ll be too late. You’ve lost someone who would have stood by your side no matter what, who would have loved you unconditionally. And for what? A cheap thrill, a momentary lapse in judgment?

I don’t know if I’ll ever be able to trust anyone again after what you’ve done. I don’t know if I’ll ever be able to love again. But one thing is for sure: I’ll never forget what you’ve done to me. You’ve scarred me for life, and I hope you’re proud of yourself.

5

I never thought I would be the one to say this, but here goes: you’re a cheater, a liar, and a coward. You couldn’t even face me and tell me the truth, could you? You had to hide behind your lies and deceit, thinking you could get away with it.

Well, newsflash, buddy: you didn’t. I know exactly what you’ve been up to, and I’m not going to stand for it. You’ve broken my heart, you’ve destroyed my trust, and you’ve made a fool out of me.

Do you know how embarrassing it is to find out that your partner has been cheating on you? To have everyone know that you were the last one to find out? To feel like a complete idiot for not seeing the signs sooner? Well, let me tell you, it’s not a great feeling.

I hope you’re happy with yourself. I hope your little fling was worth the pain and heartache you’ve caused. Because as far as I’m concerned, you’re not worth a second more of my time. You’re nothing but a cheater, a liar, and a coward.

6

I trusted you, I believed in you, and you let me down in the worst possible way. You broke my heart and shattered my faith in love. I never thought that someone I loved and trusted so much could hurt me this badly. You’ve made me doubt myself and my ability to trust others. How could I have been so blind to your deception?

And to make matters worse, you didn’t even have the decency to tell me the truth. I had to find out from someone else. You were willing to let me continue living a lie, to keep me in the dark about your infidelity. What kind of person does that to someone they supposedly love?

7

You cheated on me, and I don’t know how to deal with the betrayal and heartbreak. How could you do this to me? How could you throw away everything we had together, all the good times, the laughter, and the love?

You made me feel like I wasn’t enough, like I wasn’t worth being faithful to. You made me feel like I was the problem, like I was the one who wasn’t meeting your needs. But the truth is, you were the one who was lacking. You were the one who couldn’t appreciate what you had.

Was your little fling worth it? Because you’ve lost something truly special. You’ve lost someone who loved you with all her heart, someone who would have done anything for you. And for what? A few moments of pleasure? A temporary escape from reality?

One thing is for sure: you’ve shown me your true colors. You’ve shown me that you’re not the person I thought you were. You’re not the person I fell in love with.

8

You’ve destroyed my faith in love and made me feel like I’m not worth being faithful to. You’ve made me feel like I’m not enough, like I’m not good enough to keep you satisfied.

But the truth is, it’s not me, it’s you. You’re the one who’s lacking. You’re the one who couldn’t appreciate what you had. You’re the one who was too weak

[Also read: 11 Tricks Easily to Spot a Liar, According to Psychologists]

How to Deal With a Cheating Boyfriend: Tips for Moving On

Cheating is a painful and traumatic experience, especially when it’s your significant other who has betrayed you. 

Whether it was a one-time fling or a long-term affair, the fact remains that your boyfriend cheated on you, and it’s up to you to decide how to move forward. Here are some tips for dealing with a cheating boyfriend and finding a way to move on:

1. Take time to process your emotions. 

It’s normal to feel angry, hurt, and betrayed when you discover that your boyfriend has cheated on you. Allow yourself to experience these emotions, but don’t let them consume you. Find healthy ways to express your feelings, such as talking to a trusted friend, writing in a journal, or seeing a therapist.

2. Decide what you want. 

Before you can move on from a cheating boyfriend, you need to decide what you want for your future. Do you want to try to work things out with your boyfriend, or is it time to end the relationship? Be honest with yourself and make a decision that’s best for you.

3. Communicate with your boyfriend. 

If you decide to try to work things out with your boyfriend, it’s important to communicate openly and honestly. Ask him to explain why he cheated, and be willing to listen without judgment. Be clear about your feelings and what you need from him moving forward.

4. Set boundaries. 

If you decide to stay with your boyfriend, it’s important to set clear boundaries to prevent future infidelity. This might mean setting limits on his interactions with the other person, or even taking a break from the relationship to give yourselves time to heal and rebuild trust.

5. Take care of yourself. 

Regardless of whether you decide to stay with your boyfriend or end the relationship, it’s important to take care of yourself. Focus on your well-being by getting enough rest, eating healthy, and engaging in activities that bring you joy.

6. Seek support. 

Dealing with a cheating boyfriend can be overwhelming, and it’s important to have a support system in place. Lean on friends and family who you trust, or consider joining a support group for people who have experienced infidelity.


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