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When I met my husband ten years ago, I felt an unexplainable connection with him. 

We were on rival teams during the Campus Sports Week, but immediately our eyes met from across the field, we felt that spark. It wasn’t love at first sight.

The feeling is different from love or lust; it feels like coming home after a long journey. 

It wasn’t until a year later before my husband and I became sexually involved with each other, and this shows that sex was not a basis for that intense connection. 

We approached each other after the match and became instant friends, talking about everything and anything. Ten years and two kids later, we still haven’t stopped talking about anything and everything. That connection is still more potent than ever, and we still have that spark. 

This is just my story; not every case ends up in marriage. Some become close friends, while some even stay strangers; either way, they will always leave an indelible mark that can not be erased. 

For those who still don’t know what this feels like, here are 9 clear signs that can help you put your emotions into perspective to identify this connection when it happens. 

1. You feel it 

The feeling that this connection inspires will be different, but one thing is for certain, your soul will know. I always say that it transcends physical attraction because your souls are involved. 

The souls make the connection and ignite the spark, so you can feel this with anybody, regardless of whether the individual matches your usual specifications in a partner. 

Call them soulmates or twin flames if you like, but that connection will be too undeniable to be ignored. 

2. They might seem familiar 

You’ve probably felt this one before. 

When we catch someone’s eyes from across the room, or you bump into someone, you get a flash of déjà vu followed by a strong feeling that you have met this person before. 

You strike up a conversation with them and realize that you’re indeed strangers who you are meeting for the very first time, but you still can’t shake the feeling that you have met them before. 

It is one of the surest signs of an unexplainable connection with someone. 

If you strongly feel that you have met someone before, there is a high chance you have previous life or past connection. Soulmates and karmic relationships exist to bring people who have met in their past lives together again. 

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3. The energy is not forced 

Relationships these days have a lot of forced energies and boring conversations, but not when you have an unexplainable connection with someone. 

When you meet a person like this, you instantly click. Conversations can stretch on for hours without boredom or fatigue because you genuinely want to be with them and get to know them better. 

Though there might be several people in your life with whom conversation flows easily, with someone you are undeniably connected to, it’s different. The conversation will transcend normal talk; it is you genuinely sourcing information from them to strengthen the soul tie and improve your bond. 

4. You can’t forget them 

We come across so many people daily in our lives. On our commute to work, to the grocery store, to school, anywhere, we bump into different people and instantly forget their faces. 

However, some keep us up at night when thoughts of them cross our minds leaving us with a deep sense of loss for what could have been. 

Indeed, it is not every unexplainable connection that people pursue. Most times, people are not aware of it until it’s gone. Some might be too afraid of the intense feelings such attraction invokes to go after such a person, then lose them forever. 

When you feel this unexplainable connection with someone, it doesn’t necessarily have to lead to a romantic or sexual relationship. It is better to keep them —even as friends— than to lose that connection forever. 

Interesting: 6 Signs You’re Secretly Attractive to Other People

5. They make you better 

The thing is, everyone thinks they are the greatest thing since sliced bread. It is not inherently a bad thing; it just means we are blind to our flaws most of the time. And this can keep us from improving on ourselves because we feel like there’s nothing to change. 

However, when you develop an unexplainable connection with someone, you are left bared open. The person acts as a mirror, showing you your true self, and helping you understand what you need to work on. It happens very frequently in karmic and soulmate relationships. 

6. You feel at ease 

Even with all the ups and downs that you are likely to face in a relationship, if you are with your special person, you will feel at ease. 

At no point will you feel thoroughly overwhelmed to the point where letting go crosses your mind. Everything is easier: the conversations, the companionship, and even the fights. 

The silence between the both of you is very comforting, and won’t need to feel pressured to fill it with unnecessary conversations. 

A relationship like this transcends the usual frolics of a sexual or physical liaison because both individuals are unexplainably connected. 

7. There is understanding 

Ever looked at your special person across the room and instantly understood what their eyes were telling you? Or you’re both at a party, and you can immediately tell that the other person is not comfortable and wants to go home just by their body language? 

We don’t get this psychic connection with just anyone, and it doesn’t happen every day. Humans are highly spiritual beings, so once you find someone you connect with on that level, you want to hold them tight. 

You don’t necessarily have to be in the same space with that person for you to be able to feel or know what they’re thinking; the spiritual connection is so thick that it is functional even when you’re countries apart.

Sometimes you feel an inexplicable need to call or check up on that person, and when you do, you find that they needed it at that point. 

It is another sure sign of an unexplainable connection with someone. It happens more frequently when your souls are twin flames. 

Related: 8 Qualities That Make You Unforgettable 

8. There is an attraction 

You might not feel love at first sight, but that attraction will be undeniable. It is instant, occurring as soon as you set your eyes on that person for the first time.

It is very mysterious, and you find yourself craving their presence so much that you want to be with them all the time. 

It does not mean you don’t want to be sexually involved; it is just not the basis of your relationship. 

Don’t let this surprise you; it simply means you have met someone you connect with on an unexplainable level. 

9. Freedom of expression  

Society has a lot of say in how we express ourselves as people. We are limited in our expressions regarding how we act, dress, talk, and even react. It has affected our perspective in relationships, and we tend to act a certain way to please our partners and keep the relationship going. 

However, when you have an unexplainable connection with someone, you are free to be yourself without judgments because you will find a deep acceptance in their love. 

It doesn’t mean they will not notice your flaws and imperfections, but they will accept them and help you work on them as a team. 

Will They Love Me Back? 

There is no standard answer. Usually, in relationships like this, the connection is so strong that you both feel it simultaneously.

However, there are certain instances where your romantic affection will be unrequited. In cases like this, the only other option is to let go and move on with your life, no matter how painful it is.


Technology has made things way easier, and now you can feel this unexplainable connection with someone you have never even met. It doesn’t make it less potent, and the connection would be just as strong. 

When you experience this amazing connection with someone, remember to take things in stride. Count yourself lucky and appreciate the great moments because it only happens once in a lifetime.

Also read: 10 Unexpected Reasons Why People Stare At You

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Adetayo Toluwalope

Adetayo is an author and a prolific writer. Her writing experience broadly encompasses fiction and articles regarding dating and lifestyle. She's passionate about helping people become better versions of themselves through storytelling.

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