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Finding “The One” is rarely an instant realization. 

Instead, it’s a series of experiences, a gradual understanding, and an evolving emotional journey that leads to the revelation that you’ve found your soulmate. 

And despite what rom-coms might have us believe, it’s not always an earth-shaking, time-stopping moment. In fact, it often creeps up on us, quietly and subtly, until one day, we realize we can’t imagine life without that special someone.

That said, there are key signs guys begin to manifest when they’ve found a woman they’ll consider a soul mate. Here are twelve of these signs. 

1. They Feel At Peace With You 

When a man has found the one

First off on our list is a feeling that is perhaps more subtle but incredibly important. 

When a guy meets the one, he starts to feel extraordinarily comfortable in his own skin. This isn’t the usual casual comfort, but a deeper, more profound sense of ease and self-assuredness.

You see, every guy out there has a little bit of a guard up. It’s our natural defense mechanism. 

But when we find the one, we feel free and safe to let this guard down. We’re not worried about being judged or misunderstood because we’ve found someone who gets us. 

It’s this sense of being able to truly be ourselves, warts and all, that makes us feel incredibly comfortable.

In fact, this comfort even extends to sharing our vulnerabilities – things we’d typically prefer to keep under wraps. 

When we meet someone who doesn’t just accept these vulnerabilities but embraces them, it’s like finding that perfect fitting glove. You just know it’s right. And that’s why this deep-seated comfort is a clear sign that we’ve met someone truly special.

2. Excitement About the Future

Most guys think they’re afraid of commitment because they haven’t met the right woman. 

When you meet someone who makes you happy, you suddenly start daydreaming about the future. And not just in a whimsical, pie-in-the-sky kind of way. 

No, he starts imagining concrete plans, envisioning a shared future that includes this wonderful new person who’s entered our life. 

There’s a palpable sense of thrill and anticipation that accompanies these thoughts.

What’s more, this future isn’t one that causes anxiety or fear. Instead, it brings joy and a comforting certainty. 

His plans no longer revolve solely around himself. Instead, they include someone else – someone he can’t wait to share all our tomorrows with. 

[Related: 10 Sure Signs He Thinks You’re Wife Material]

3. They Prioritize Her Needs

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Now, don’t get me wrong, most guys have a strong sense of responsibility and will often go out of their way to help others. 

But when we meet the one, this sense of responsibility morphs into a desire to put her needs above our own.

This isn’t about making grand gestures or indulging in a hero complex. Instead, it’s about making small, consistent efforts to ensure her happiness and comfort. 

It could be something as simple as adjusting our schedule to spend more time with her, or something as significant as making personal sacrifices for her wellbeing.

This behavior stems from deep-rooted respect and care for her. When a guy starts prioritizing a woman’s needs in this way, it’s a clear indication that he values her highly. 

He sees her as an integral part of his life – someone he wants to care for, protect, and cherish. When a man consistently puts your needs above his own, it’s a strong sign that you have a special place in his life. 

4. They Feel a Deep Emotional Connection

Contrary to popular belief, guys do possess the capacity for deep emotions, even if we might not wear them on our sleeves. 

When we’ve found the one, we feel a deep emotional bond that’s unlike anything we’ve felt before.

This emotional connection isn’t just about shared laughter or mutual interests. It’s about finding someone who understands our minds, matches our spirit, and connects with our hearts. 

We find ourselves opening up, sharing thoughts and feelings that we’ve perhaps never shared with anyone else before. It’s as if we’ve found a kindred spirit, someone who truly gets us.

When we experience this profound emotional connection, it’s hard to ignore. We know we’ve found someone special, someone with whom we can share not just our joys but also our fears and sorrows. 

Someone who makes us feel seen, heard, and deeply understood. When a guy feels this deep emotional bond with you, it’s a sure sign you’re the one for him.

5. They’re Happy to Compromise

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Guys, like anyone else, have their own preferences, habits, and ways of doing things. But when they meet the right person, they find themselves more willing to compromise. 

And this isn’t just about big issues, but also the small things that make up day-to-day life.

When a man meets that special someone, winning an argument or having things his way becomes less important. Instead, he values the relationship more than being right. 

We’re willing to step back, consider the other person’s perspective, and reach a mutual agreement.

This shift shows our respect and love for our woman. It becomes important to acknowledge her needs, feelings, and desires. 

When a guy is willing to compromise without feeling like he’s losing out, it’s a strong indication of his love for you. 

6. They Feel a Strong Physical Attraction

The kind of attraction I’m talking about here isn’t just about the initial spark or chemistry that we usually feel in the early stages of a relationship. 

It’s a deep, lasting physical attraction that doesn’t fade away with time.

This kind of attraction isn’t merely skin deep. It’s about appreciating your presence, getting drawn to your energy, and yearning for your touch. 

It goes beyond the physical and becomes an essential part of the emotional bond. This enduring physical attraction is different from fleeting lust or infatuation.

When a guy feels this strong, consistent physical attraction towards you, it’s a good sign you’re the one.

After all, physical connection plays an essential role in maintaining the health and happiness of a relationship. So if a guy is continually drawn to you, you’ve likely captured his heart.

7. They Share Their Secrets

When he's found his soul mate

Guys can be quite guarded about their deepest thoughts, dreams, fears, and especially, secrets. 

But with the right woman, they start to let these walls down. They feel safe and secure enough to share parts of themselves that they usually keep hidden.

When a guy starts to confide in you, telling you things that no one else knows, it’s a sign of immense trust. 

He’s not just sharing his secrets, he’s sharing a piece of his soul. He feels comfortable enough to reveal his vulnerabilities, fears, and hopes to you.

This willingness to share secrets also indicates that he sees a future with you. He’s willing to let you in, to see the good and the bad, the strengths and the weaknesses. 

[Also read: When Your Boyfriend Calls You His Wife: Meaning and Interpretations]

8. They Can’t Imagine Life Without You

When a guy meets the one, he can’t imagine his life without her. It’s as if she’s become an integral part of his existence, and the thought of being without her is unfathomable.

This isn’t about dependency or neediness. It’s about the realization that life is better, happier, and more meaningful with her in it. 

It’s about recognizing the joy, comfort, and strength that she brings into his life. It’s a powerful feeling that underscores just how important she is to him.

So, if a guy tells you, or even better, shows you that he can’t imagine his life without you, take it as a big sign. It’s his way of saying that you’re “the one” for him.

This feeling of life being unimaginable without you is a pretty clear indication of his deep love and commitment.

9. They Defend You

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This doesn’t mean he becomes overly protective or possessive. Instead, it’s about standing up for her, supporting her, and having her back, no matter what. 

It’s about valuing her, respecting her, and caring about her enough to defend her when she’s not there to do it herself. 

This kind of defense isn’t about confrontation or aggression. Instead, it’s about a quiet, steadfast support that’s based on respect and love.

If a guy is quick to defend you, stand by your side, and support you, it’s a strong sign that you’re the one for him. It shows that he values you highly and is willing to stand up for you. 

10. They Feel More Confident

For any man, having someone who believes in him, supports him, and loves him gives him an extra boost of self-esteem. This makes him feel more secure and content in who he is, especially when he’s with you. 

He feels accepted and loved for who he truly is, which can do wonders for his self-esteem and confidence.

This newfound confidence can manifest in many ways, from his work to his personal life, and even his relationships with others. 

11. They Want to Make You Happy

His priorities shift, and he puts a lot of focus on making you happy. This isn’t about grand gestures or impressive gifts, but about small, everyday actions that bring a smile to her face.

For instance, he may remember your favorite coffee order, plan a date around your favorite activities, or simply be there for you when you’ve had a tough day. 

These small acts of kindness stem from his desire to see you happy and content.

When a guy is willing to put in the effort to make you happy consistently, it’s a clear sign that he sees you as the one. It’s his way of showing you that he cares deeply about you and values your happiness as much as his own.

12. They Introduce You to Their Loved Ones

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A man who loves you wants to introduce you to the people he cares about most – his friends and family. 

And he doesn’t just make introductions but he also incorporates you into his life in a big way. He makes you feel like you’re a part of his family. 

When you see this sign, understand that he’s essentially saying that he sees a future with you. He wants his loved ones to know you, to see what he sees in you, and to appreciate you the way he does.

It’s his way of showing you that you’re important to him and that he sees you as the one. This is a clear indication of his deep love and commitment.

Key Takeaway 

Men, like women, do experience a variety of feelings and actions when they believe they’ve met the one. 

They might not always express these feelings in overt or expected ways, but if you know what to look for, there are signs.

However, it’s important to remember that everyone is unique, and these signs may vary in intensity or expression from person to person. 

These signs can help you understand if a man perceives you as the one, but it is equally important that you share similar feelings for him. Love is a two-way street, after all. 

Thank you for reading!


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Destiny Femi

Destiny Femi is a dating coach whose work has helped transform the love lives of countless people. With a writing style that is both insightful and relatable, Destiny has amassed a following of hundreds of thousands of readers who turn to him for advice on everything from finding the perfect partner to maintaining a healthy relationship. Through his articles he has inspired people around the world to become more confident, authentic, and successful in their dating life.

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