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Though men are used to making a move on women even when they are not sure what to expect, it always helps to know what she thinks about you beforehand. 

Here’s why: 

Not knowing what to expect is chaos. You might be afraid, thinking, “What if she mocks me?” Or “What if I ruin the friendship we already have?” 

The fear of social rejection is a big deal. It makes some guys–and girls–stop themselves from interacting with someone they like.

No one wants to be rejected, especially by those they want to be with. 

Now imagine you can spot the signs of attraction beforehand. Think of how confident and relaxed you’ll be when making a move on her. You get the idea. 

Though every woman is different, some are shy and some are bold and expressive. And there are a few that will even go ahead and make a move on you if they like you. 

But generally speaking, there are a few universal cues that most women give when they like a guy. Here are some of them. 

1. She Initiates Things With You

A girl who already likes you will not mind initiating a conversation with you.

When you text her first, she will actively engage with you and not leave you waiting for hours or days to get a response from her. 

Now, there are some girls who, out of fear of looking desperate, will hold back while obsessively discussing you with their friends.

But those are the exceptions you don’t want to worry about (these types might give you other signs though). 

However, most girls will be enthusiastic to engage with you if they genuinely find you attractive. 

If you ask them out on a date, they will not blow it on your face or turn it down indefinitely. Instead, if she isn’t available on the date you picked, she will pick another day to meet up. 

Here’s the thing: A girl will rarely come directly when she’s interested in you.

Hence, when you come to her, it’s a rare chance for her to show you—through her actions—that cares about you. And she will not want to do anything to sabotage that opportunity. 

2. She Loves to Hang Out With You

This is a pretty straightforward sign. But sadly enough, most guys don’t pay attention to it. 

If you ask a girl out on a date she keeps prolonging or canceling at the last minute, let her go. She doesn’t like you and there’s a huge chance she’s playing games with you.  

A girl who likes you will want to hang out with you. If she’s always agreeing to dates, showing up looking nice, she likes you.

She might even go ahead to make some plans herself to tell you that she enjoys being with you.

3. Respect 

Girls respect guys they admire. 

Before a girl starts liking you, she must have seen certain things about you that intrigue her and draw her to you. It might be something as simple as the way you speak. 

It may be the way you carry yourself, your intelligence, your looks, your accomplishments, etc. Sometimes she’ll like you because there’s a part of your character she really likes, but she lacks. 

The same things that made her like you will make her respect you. 

Furthermore, girls love their men to take the masculine role. She wants you to be comfortable leading her and being the man. And one of the ways she does this is by letting you know she respects you. 

4. Natural Interest 

Girl complimenting guy

Most guys have been in this scenario. Maybe you can relate…

You meet a girl you like and you try to engage with her but all you get are one-liners. Here’s an example… 

You: “How are you doing?”

She: “Fine.” (And she answers, probably looking away.)

You: “What’s your name?”

She: Trish. 

If a girl engages with you in this manner without having any interest in knowing anything about you, don’t waste your time, she isn’t interested. 

Furthermore, if you’re on a date and all she cares about is talking about herself, that’s also a red flag. She’s either not into you or just self-centered. Either way, you don’t want to be with that kind of girl. 

A girl who wants you will naturally be interested in you. She will want to know about your hobbies, interests, your family, and your friends.

This is why people who already like each other can hardly have a bad date

When you care about someone, there’s more than enough you’ll want to know about that person to keep a date interesting for as long as possible. 

[Also read: 10 Subtle Signs She’s Developing Feelings For You]

5. Genuine Compliments

If she compliments you just once and it never happens again, you can take it that you just looked nice that day. 

However, when a girl frequently compliments you about your looks, your new shoes, your new haircut, your dentition, etc, she’s trying to tell you something.

This is perhaps one of the best signs that she likes you. 

For instance, she might text you after a date night that it’s always fun hanging out with you. This is a great sign. 

Here’s the thing: A girl, especially when she likes you, will not come straightforward and tell you she likes you. But she will try to get you to notice her. And her way of doing this is by giving you compliments. 

When you get a new haircut, she’ll notice. When you get a new shirt, she’ll tell you she likes the color. This is her way of telling you, “I see you and like you…Do something.”

6. She Pays Attention to Your Words

woman listening to man because she likes him

A girl who likes will listen and remember the things you tell her. 

Here’s what I mean: 

Maybe in one of your conversations, you told her about an author whose books have greatly impacted your life. And then a week later she shares a book or a quote from the author with you on WhatsApp. 

This shows that you’re really important to her and she pays attention to everything you tell her. It is also a way for her to engage with you and start up a conversation. Either way, it’s a good sign she likes you.

[Interesting: How To Tell A Girl That You Like Her]

7. When the Shy Girl Likes You

When a shy girl likes you, she’s going to have it hard keeping it together around you. 

While good eye contact might be a sign that a confident girl desires you, a shy girl will avoid your gaze and look around now and then when talking to you. 

When she’s on a date with you and she uses the bathroom, you might notice she smells better and her lips look brighter when she comes back

A shy girl will demonstrate her attraction to you by being overly self-conscious whenever she’s around you.

She will become overly concerned about her appearance, quickly adjusting her hair or looking at any reflecting surface to check how she looks. 

This is because she cares a lot about what you think of her and doesn’t want to do or say anything that will reduce her chances with you. 


When a girl finds you attractive, it usually isn’t that complicated to know.

She will become softer and more feminine. Her voice will sound lower and more seductive on the phone like she’s melting. 

On the other hand, when she doesn’t like you, she takes the masculine role, always saying she’s too busy, and canceling dates at the last minute.

Often, the hardest thing isn’t seeing the signs, it’s accepting whatever the girl is trying to tell you with her body language

If she likes you, great. But if she doesn’t, don’t hope that she’ll change her mind if you continue pressuring her. Desire really isn’t that complicated. 

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Anita Oge

Meet Anita, a relationship writer with a passion for helping people navigate the complexities of love and dating. With a background in information science, she has a wealth of knowledge and insight to share. Her writing is sure to leave you feeling empowered and inspired.

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